Leadership. Mentorship. Managing & Coaching.

We’re going to step aside from the traditional ‘responder & HRO’ leadership style briefly and dive into the many faucets of leadership. The picture above links to an article about what employees want from leaders in the 21st Century. It’s important to remember that in our line of work, in society, in the chapters of our lives–the most constant thing other than time is change. That’s the first quality of a leader; recognizing the lapse of experiences and reactions to those experiences when that particular leader was once in the beginning era of their career.

A great example is when I remember back in my first 4-5 years of my career in wild land fire. There were so many experiences that excited me–group torching next to the fire line, running the saw (the adrenaline of cutting down monster trees), utilizing fire on back burns, burn outs, or prescribed fire. It still excites me, but the tasks have been experienced in many similar situations that they have become second nature. The LCES, fire behavior, the risk management, the initial experience of it–has become normalized for me. But it’s the crew members starting in their career that remind me of the giddy excitement or stunned terrifying fear (although most always under the safety of leadership) of those first experiences.

I had similar experiences volunteering for the fire department and acquiring my EMTb certification. I still have some of those reactions to these roles as I am not exposed to the experience as much.

So, how does a leader’s experience and intent get translated to these crew members that are newer to the field, or even a different generation? Through the different approaches of leadership. Not leadership type (i.e. Participant or Authoritative Leader) that they formally teach us in our field–although putting a name and a definition to each type is appropriate for identifying the ‘why’ in decisions and behaviors of a particular leader. A holistic leadership approach through mentoring, managing, and coaching is essential for the development, thus the production outcome, of personnel and success. Yes, development is always first, because as a leader, people are always first! Production is the end state, the goal, the outcome. However, to motivate your crew is to invest in your crew way before the demands of production begin.

Managing is a huge part of leadership. They cannot be mutually exclusive–contradictory to what I felt was always demonstrated in my career. How a leader manages is key. Management is the administration side of leadership. Responsibility for the status quo, policy, guidelines, budgets, equipment inventory and upkeep are a few things that fall under leader’s management. Leaders don’t manage people, but they do manage their employee’s development through ensuring the employee has their policy-required paperwork completed correctly (not necessarily do it for them), the right classes and training acquired, the proper equipment or gear and knowledge of processes. It’s the much needed, and not so glamorous ‘check the boxes’ duties of a leader, but it ripples outward into the success of the leader’s other approaches!

Stephanie Muxfield describes mentorship as “A mentor can help you grow and exceed in your career….but they are necessarily going to tell us exactly how to go about it.” (Mentor, Coach, Manager, Leader: What’s the Difference?). Being a mentor does not mean being a leader. Mentors guide us and provide the resources and tool for our development; they often provide the long-term goal support for their mentors. A leader will be explained more later.

Coaching can also sometimes be considered mentoring. Instead of the 30k foot view, however, coaching is a more detailed in set in the present. As a coach, you must be a keen observer and possess the ability of active listening as well as providing the proper self-refection questions at the appropriate time with the most receptive approach. It’s a skill that many mix in with ‘leadership,’ or ‘mentorship.’ However, coaching is a very informal role that can be direct or indirect feedback from many levels. The key to a good coach, however, is the coach’s awareness of the individual and ability to combine the skills listed before and adapt to the conversation. As I continue my education in Holistic Wellness and Life Coach (through the International Coaching Federation), I am recognizing the absence of genuine coaching in our workforce. Coaches do not offer suggestion or solutions or provide resources in one direction or another, like mentors. Coaches regurgitate the ‘coachee’s’ challenges and provide holistic, self-reflective questions. This provides an opportunity for the person to guide themselves to the answer best fitted for their situation. It can be like an individual After Action Review (AAR).

Leadership. Leadership has no defined boundary or role. Leading from below or leading by example–it can come from many levels. Leadership is not one-on-one, but more for the masses. Leaders inspire and influence their peers, subordinates and cohorts towards common goals. In my opinion, leaders are chameleons working side by side with the group they are influencing. They mend and mold influence through their leadership styles, approaches, and behaviors. They don’t recognize it, they don’t acknowledge it…they just lead. Unlike managing, which one has to listen to the manager that supervises your employment, leaders are followed by people who want to follow them. Who respect and trust them.

David Prezant, M.D. for the New York City Fire Department (FDNY), is a fantastic example of a leadership. During the World Trade Center incident, he was a director of triage east of ‘ground zero.’ He captures moments of his humanity with the absence of leadership, but the majority of his actions and decisions were the very definition of leadership. He later became known for breakthrough medical science for the healthcare of first responders as well as a lobbyist for the cause. He led the masses through his research and proposals. More on him: 20 Years After.

None of these roles are mutually exclusive. In fact, a holistic utilization of managing, mentoring, coaching, and leading will make a person unstoppable. Every individual, group and community needs holistic leadership to challenge conventional and outdated ideologies and promote radical change for our future!

Please check out the books below (click on the linked picture that will take you directly to the book for your convenience). I have read, and re-read these throughout my career. They are sounding board from with to reflect on your own skills and grow into your roles within your field of work. Stay safe and be well, first responders. X

What is Rest?

The hustle and bustle of life. The dream of success in a career–moving up the ladder. The demands of family; young children to raise and a partner to cheer on their journey and give them soulful and sensual attention. A retirement pot and bank account to feed–giving you security and preparing you for uncertainty such as a broken pipe in a home you just bought.

I can truly say, as I sit here writing this, that I’m thinking of ten other things I need to get done today; this weekend; this month….this year! It seems as though we rode the coattails of the Industrial Revolution into the world of constant competition and demands. How can I make the most money? Who can have the most follows on social media? How can I rise to the top of my career? Who can purchase…well a house in general–with our inflated market these days?!

NERD ALERT: Here’s a fun history fact. We are still considered in the Industrial Revolution Era. There are four Industrial Revolutions since 1765 when the discovery of coal and development of steam engines catapulted us from agriculture to engineering and mechanics. It took another on hundred years before the second Industrial Revolution hit when harnessing of gas, electricity, and oil. Another one hundred years laters, Boom! Nuclear energy! Bringing us to the fourth Industrial Revolution, Internet and Renewable Energy. Check out the article: Four Industrial Revolutions

With every opportunity, decision, and demand knocking on our door–and no truly holistic program in places of work, church, community, and home. There’s no wonder we are a society plagued with unrest and illness! According to the National Council on Aging, here in America, more than a 1/3 of the adult population claim getting less than 7 hours of sleep with 13.5% of adults complained of feeling exhausted! Sleep is so very much correlated with quality of life. Quality of sleep can help kick the foggy brain syndrome, and fight of a host of diseases such as Type 2 Diabetes, stroke, or dementia.

Then, let’s add the career of military, enforcement, rescue, medical, and first responders [We will call the group “Responders”]. Not only are we dealing with the normal and common hustle of humanity, we are trained to take on the high intensity, emotionally packed situations that most people are unable to react quickly or appropriately under the surmounting stress. We do it because we’ve been trained, a demeanor and skill embedded in our character that makes us good at it, and the sheer passion to be a pillar of support and comfort in another’s chaos working beside the misunderstood misfits we call colleagues! It truly is selfless service to our communities!

Is sleep the only type of rest, though? It’s what most of us think of when we think of ‘resting.’ The Calm app identifies seven types of rest–shown in the diagram adjacent to this paragraph. If you like reading up on topic, I find it closely ties into an article I wrote prior to this on Boundaries.

Physical Rest: I’m sure most of us have woken up after a night’s sleep feeling…bleh. Either you woke up with every frequent toss and turn, had a hard time falling asleep or felt like you slept hard enough but not long enough. So what is restful sleep? According to Restful Sleep MD, there are three components that include 1. Quantity, 2. Quality, and 3. Continuity.

Sleep environment is a huge role player in your quality of sleep. We all have heard it–light [and especially recently, blue light] is a huge disruptor in your environment before you zonk! Here’s the thing, only YOU have ownership of changing your quality of life and your quality of sleep. There are tons of studies on the effects of our circadian rhythm, sleep, and electronic blue light. I’ll stop here on sleep, because for those of you who are wanting change in your life, you’re willing to try new things like turning off your electronic devices prior to falling asleep. Sleep hygiene is a real thing. You have to create your own routine, environment, etc. The only thing I can speak to with experience that will affect your sleep are medical reasons. I just recently had surgery on my knee. I’m 6 weeks post-op and I still wake up as I toss and turn because of the sensations in my knee. I can imagine certain medication can also disrupt sleep. If it’s a necessary medication, speak to your doc about it!

Emotional Rest: For the Responder world, we are trained to deal with emotionally packed incidents whether it is a school shooting, a wildfire rampaging through a community, or search and rescue post avalanche with the time-decision gap quickly closing in. Training certainly doesn’t devoid us of the cumulative emotional fatigue. To add, we have the more normal and common emotional unrest from being a human–death, divorce, financial burden, raising children. Whether you’re a Responder or not, you have felt the anchor of emotions drag you into overwhelming isolation with heavy, heavy thoughts. Being able to express emotions [kindly] is a radical necessity for the individual and the collective. Being able to process emotions is radical self-love. More now than ever has the taboo of seeking therapy been lifted in our society. Be humble and radically love yourself through those emotionally draining occurrences. Seek the help you may need and deserve.

Spiritual Rest: Understanding the existential reasons you are here in this lifetime beyond the day-to-day mundane is an important grounding tool to provide holistic rest. What is your purpose? Why are you here? What is your passion? What and where do you want to make a difference? Defining life beyond what you do every day gives direction and motivation. It doesn’t have to do with religion or beliefs. It has everything to do with what you want to be proud of learning, exploring, and experiencing when you take in your last breath. Find this peaceful remedy through creativity–expressions of you from you. Utilize meditation, or journaling.

Social Rest: I’m considered an ambivert–I find a balance of extroversion and introversion. I can be invigorated by social interaction or by personal solitude depending on the situation. My favorite human, however, the force of introversion is strong within him! Needed social rest is very observable in him. After a weekend away, visiting with family or friends, he needs a day or two to recoup–even from me! He hides away contently…recharging his social battery. How are you affected by social situations? What recharges you after an intense and overwhelming social setting? A note on this as well–surround yourself by the morals, and character you value in others. Fleas stick with fleas–if that’s all you want in life.

Creative Rest: Immersing yourself in a creative world will empower you to harness your own creativity. Whether it’s music, woodworking, poetry or photography–the joyful creations will ease stress and open up new ideas and opportunities to pursue. The Rugged West Homestead started from a heartbreak and a hotshot crew. It led me to Colorado and to friends who inspired roadshow crafting with exit408 products. My seventeen years as a wild land firefighter, experiences in and with leadership, and the invaluable mentorship received and given has reminded my of my purpose, service to communities. This has led me down the recent path of acquiring a coaching certification and in the future, a Masters in Counseling. Holos 360/5 could not have been possible without my brothers and sisters in the wild land fire world!

Sensory Rest: This ties heavily into our everyday attention grabbing activities. Along with sleep hygiene, give yourself a break from electronics! I fortunately live in a very small community nestled at 8000 feet in the mountains. While the seasons can be harsh, I am not distracted by constant traffic or trains. Get out in nature–a city park or a mountain adventure. Give you sensory overload a rest. Take a moment to intentionally focus on each of your senses at the present moment. What are you hearing? Is it loud soft? High or low pitched? Is it like music or like scratching chalkboard? What do you smell? Sweet? Stinky? Strong? Touch your skin, what does your hand feel like? What does your skin feel like? Is it bright where you are? Sun shining? Clouds in the sky? What does your tongue feel like on the roof of your mouth? What do your teeth feel like when you run your tongue across them? Taking a present pause to engage your senses can assist body feedback for your needs.

Mental Rest: Decisions. Deadlines. Demands. Time is the only ticking constant in our world. Our memories are precious. Taking a break to dive into hobbies and free your mind from checklists and to dos will benefit you creativity, your problem solving, and not give you the fatigue hangover! Be mindful. Be intentional. Be present in your everyday life. Hey! We all have things we just have to do. At work. At home. Our personal goals. Walking the dog. Attending children events. Just schedule in personal time to do what re-energizes you! Use meditation. Dream and dream big and often. Let your mind be free to wander in and out of thoughts. A TEDx talk I stumbled upon a few years ago helped me rewire my brain to see stress differently [most of the time–I’m still human!].

Nope. Not an article stuffed full of affiliate links. Stuffed full of information I can only hope helps you live your best life! ‘Till next time, friends! X